CREATING SAFE SPACES
It’s a privilege to have a man come to my massage room and entrust their body into my care. It’s a privilege to create a safe space where this man feels able to relax, play and explore. The physical space is private, clean and intimate. Soft lighting, warm organic oils, relaxing music. But creating a safe space is more than the physical space.
Creating a safe space starts with the type of massage you choose. The different massage options may seem complicated, but they help make clear what’s on offer and what’s not. Are we both naked, can you touch the masseur, will you be jerked off, is kissing allowed? A lot of this is covered in the different massage options. And even if something is included, you can always opt out. For example, if you’re uncomfortable with full nudity, maybe start with speedos. If kissing is not your thing, say you don’t want it.
And if the massage options aren’t clear or you’re unsure of something, ask your masseur before you book. Trust me, no question is too basic to ask!
When you arrive for a massage, you should have a good idea of what to expect. But I still like to chat with you about my massage style and answer any questions you have. If the massage includes different options – for example, rimming, toys or prostate stimulation – we’ll have a chat first about which options you’d like to include and which you don’t.
We’ll also discuss “consent and boundaries”. I’ll ask you if there is anywhere you don’t want to be touched and if you have any injuries. I’ll explain where you can touch me (mutual touch is always optional – you don’t have to touch me). Our bodies are constantly changing. What feels good one moment, may feel boring or unpleasant the next. During a massage, I’ll often check in to make sure consent hasn’t changed. As a client, you should let your masseur know immediately if your body isn’t enjoying any type of touch. Don’t endure something you’re not enjoying. There’s always plenty of other sensual touch to explore!
In this way both of us work together to create a safe space. A safe and intimate physical space, a space where we each respect each other’s boundaries, a space filled with the potential for consensual erotic, intimate, orgasmic pleasure!
Did I say how much I love my job?
