Men who find themselves on my massage table may be surprised that I start by asking them to scan through their body and notice areas of tension or stress. Or I may ask them to synchronize their breath to mine, breathing deeply and slowly, as I begin to introduce firm holding touch to their body. Or to visualize letting of thoughts of work, travel or daily life and feel their mind slow down and relax.

I kind of fell into sensual massage. It was never planned, but once I started, I knew I loved it!

I’d been working a corporate job for many years. While it had been extremely challenging and fulfilling, as time went by it became less challenging and more mundane.

In my massage practice I see men from all walks of life and types of sexuality. They may be married to a woman, they may have a male partner, they may be experimenting… the variations are endless! What most clients have in common is the desire for male-to- male touch in a safe, confidential space.

Have you ever opened a Facebook or Instagram page only to be instantly depressed by the carefully curated images that make you think “why isn’t my life like that?”. We are social animals and we’re always comparing ourselves to others. Social media intensifies and worsens this all too human trait.

It’s a privilege to have a man come to my massage room and entrust their body into my care. It’s a privilege to create a safe space where this man feels able to relax, play and explore. The physical space is private, clean and intimate. Soft lighting, warm organic oils, relaxing music. But creating a safe space is more than the physical space…